Dating and Mating - Part I - Physical Attraction

It's always amazed me at how some relationships start, some last, some don't. Regardless it just seems like some people are totally clueless why they can't find that special person or keep the one they have.
Sometimes it's a matter of avoiding Mr. or Mrs. Wrong all together.

It all comes down to some basic principals.
Since it all starts with a look and a physical attraction, that's where we'll start.

I. Keep yourself clean.
A. Body odor is never acceptable. If you get dirty and sweaty from working, always take a shower after.
B. Wear deodorant always!!!!! You have no excuse to stink.

II. Smell good.
A. Wear body spray, perfume or cologne - in moderation! No need to bathe in the stuff. People should be keeling over from toxic inhalation when you pass by. See number 1.
B. Always wear it though!

III. Take care of your teeth.
A. It's never too late to get braces or get your teeth fixed. (I did at 37. Have 9 months to go).
B. Keep them clean at least! A healthy white smile says you care about yourself and is one of the first things people notice.

IV. Don't dress like a slob - EVER.
A. Stains, ratty worn clothes etc. should only be worn for yard work and cleaning the toilet!
B. The following are NEVER acceptable in public and rarely in the company of your sweetie-pie.
1. Sweats
2. halter tops,
3. muscle shirts,
4. cut offs,
5. g-strings peeking through,
6. bra straps,
7. rock tee-shirts,
8. bathrobes,
9. super-may-as-well-be-wearing-nothing short mini skirts
10. backwards and, definitely never, sideways baseball caps.
11. PULL UP YOUR PANTS!!!! They’re called UNDERwear for a reason.

V. There is no need to wear every piece of jewelry you own. “Rings on her fingers and all” is only acceptable if you’re name is Mary Mary Quite Contrary. 2-3 rings, 2 necklaces and 1 pair of earrings - MAX. THAT’S IT!
A. bling on your grill (teeth). Come on what planet did you fall from. Have some pride! It’s not cool, does NOT look good and makes you look like you belong in a circus. Not too mention you’re just asking some big guy named Spike to knock your teeth out. See number II above.

VI. WOMEN: If you don’t have legs like Tina Turner or abs like Beyonce SPANDEX IS FORBIDDEN! I give you 60 seconds to throw them out or burn them!

VII. Dress nice when you’re with your better half. Remember how nice you use to dress when you were trying to get a date. Why the heck wouldn’t you want to do it to impress them every day? Duh?

VIII. MEN: “Every girl IS crazy ‘bout a sharp dressed man”.
A. Don’t just save your button up shirts for work. Remember what ZZ Top said Yes they understood women! We do. If you don’t own a few button up shirt – go get some!
B. Every woman is different but most women go ga-ga over a man in a nice suit and EVERY man looks good in a tux. Put a man who’s followed all this advice in a tux and women go weak in the knees.

IX. WOMEN – Men are creatures of site, more so than women. Make yourself look pretty every day. Wear some nice clothes, put on a little makeup and do your hair. You don’t have to be rich to care how you look.

X. HAIR, Hair Hair - shave and style
A. MEN – clean shaven face is always nice, particularly if you have a strong jawline.
B. If you do have facial hair, keep it neat and trim even if you prefer long beards. They don’t have to look like a birds nest.
C. Eyebrows – yes men wax too. No bushy unibrows allowed!
D. Back, nose and ear hair – ewwwwwwwwww. Nair for men, shave it, wax, laser it, mow it. There is a treatment in your budget!
E. If you have more head than hair, shave the rest.
F. WOMEN – This is not Italy (or maybe it is) whatever, Shave your armpits and your legs. Keep other inconspicuous areas neat and trimmed.
G. Oh and that bleached white hair is so not pretty. It’s even worse with dark roots. It doesn’t look good on anyone!

XI. Don’t bite your nails. Men and women should keep a small file and/or clippers around. They come in handy.

XII. Feet do talk. Ugly, dry, callused, feet say a lot about you and it’s not good. Home pedicures do in a pinch. Men, here’s a hint, it’s highly impressive to see a man get a pedicure. Women LOVE men who are comfortable with things like this. It oozes confidence. It’s sexy.


Let me know what I missed.
This is a prelim list. Remember, your style may differ. What's important is that you find out what you and your partner find attractive and go with it.