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Friday, August 29, 2008

"Balancing Comfort"

Friday, August 29, 2008

Balancing comfort

Being comfortable can be nice and pleasant. Yet too much comfort can softly and steadily erode your sense of purpose and even your most treasured dreams.

Being too attached to comfort can prevent you from venturing forth and fulfilling your best possibilities. In order to maintain your level of comfort, you may well be tempted to compromise the values you hold dear.

Enjoy the comfort that you have attained, while being careful not to let that comfort become a prison. As nice as comfort can be, so much of life's richness lies outside the boundaries of your comfort zone.

As with most things in life, comfort is best when it is experienced in moderation and balance. Even comfort loses its desirability when it is the only thing you ever experience.

Enjoy and be truly thankful for the comforts in your life. At the same time, balance those comforts with real and demanding challenges.

Maintain a comfortable place in your world from which you can regularly emerge to take on the risks and challenges that will add so much richness to life. Outside your comfort zone, there are always new dreams waiting to be lived.

-- Ralph Marston

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Come on a "Trip" with Me

Some people know I'm not big on jewelry, chocolate, or even flowers and shopping. But the one thing I just love is TECHNOLOGY, particularly when it's FREE and helps me get organized, productive and have some fun.

A few months ago I stumbled across a site called TRIPIT.COM and absolutely had to join.
It's a website that keeps track of all your travel plans for you. I do vacation and travel a lot because of work and all I have to do is forward all my confirmation emails to TripIt and it's automatically creates a trip folder if it's new or adds it to an existing one.

With TripIt, you just forward all the emails from the airlines and the hotels to plans@tripit.com. The app does all the data entry drudgery, determining who you are from the sending address, then parsing the email to extract structured travel data from the free text message. Tripit creates an integrated itinerary from your air and hotel reservations, along with local sights, weather, and airport check in.It adds maps to hotels, flight trackers for airlines and you can add and modify anything you like.

It's been so awesome and I don't have to print anything anymore or manage folders, binders for travel plans.

The best part is it's TOTALLLLLYYYY FREEEEEEE!!!!!
I LOVE FREE.

You have to check it out. You must sign up and you can even add friends and family and share your trips with them.

So let's say you're planning a family reunion but your family is all over the country, or world.

Everyone can sign up, someone creates a new trip and shares the trip with all the family regardless of where they are. You can then all keep track of each person's flights, hotels, travel arrangement, even event activities. It even updates itself daily and provides the weather in your daily location. It's awesome!

Ok so here's the link, go sign up even if you don't use it often you should use it. They don't give your email out so you won't get spam. It's just really cool!!!

This is one of the latest techy things that has me in an uproar.

TripIt.com

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

"Momentum"

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Momentum

When you've gone a little ways, keep going a little ways more. When you've made some progress, use that progress to make some more.

Multiply the power of your actions with momentum. Once you get yourself going, follow through on the commitment and keep yourself going.

Often, the most difficult part of a task is the act of getting started. The fewer times you have to go through that process of starting yourself back up, the more you can get accomplished.

When you've enjoyed one success, that's the best time to start working on another success. Once you have momentum on your side, take full advantage of it.

One of the biggest benefits of achievement is that it opens up the door for greater achievement. Even a small success is a big deal, because of where it can lead.

Get yourself going and then keep yourself going. And from there, you can go anywhere.

-- RM

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Presidential Challenges - Fix it Man!

Pat your head, turn around, jump up and down, stand on your head, spit to the north during the full moon, pee to the south at dawn and plant a lemon seed at 3:33pm during the Autumnal Equinox, and cast your vote. Do this and the new president will give you exactly what you want. :)

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"So Very Much Good"

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

So very much good

Be slow to take offense if indeed you ever take offense at all. For being offended gains you nothing and can cost you much.

Have patience with the mistakes and follies of others. Instead of harsh criticism, offer genuinely helpful feedback so that everyone benefits.

Forgive early and forgive often. Set yourself free from the heavy burden of resentment, and move quickly beyond the pain.

Learn from your regrets, yet do not punish yourself with them. Today is a new day with more possibilities than ever before.

Be truly thankful for all that is, and for your opportunity to experience it. You'll discover great stores of goodness and value when you simply have faith that they're there.

Live beyond the petty, fleeting concerns, and focus on the profound and beautiful substance of your life. There is so very much good that you can always do with it.

-- RM

Monday, August 25, 2008

"What You Say"

Monday, August 25, 2008

What you say

Truth has little need of elaborate explanation. The fewer words you can use, the more meaning they have.

Speak what you know to be true. And there will be no need to hide your thoughts behind your words.

Words have little meaning if there is no conviction to support them. When your words come directly from who you most sincerely are, they carry with them great power.

Do not make the mistake of attempting to deceive others with what you say. For once your words are found to be insincere, you will have great difficulty being taken seriously again.

Words are easy to say. Yet for those words to have any meaning or power, they must closely match the reality of your actions and your being.

Speak clearly, truthfully, with respect and humility. From the truth of who you are, comes the best of what you say.

-- RM

"Life Is Now"

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Life is now

No matter how much joy you've known, there is always more joy to be experienced. Each moment brings new possibilities for adding richness to life.

The best days of your life are never behind you, unless you choose to see them as such. For no matter how life has been, there will always be opportunities to experience more goodness.

Everything you know about has already happened, so it can be very easy to view life as nothing more than what is receding into the past. Yet life is infinitely more, because life is now.

By all means, hold firmly to the goodness you've already known and carry it forever in your heart. At the same time, open yourself fully to the positive possibilities that are yours right now.

Now is the moment to live. Now is the time for all that can be.

The sun is just now rising on the bright golden possibilities of this day. Life's great and beautiful promise is now.

-- Ralph Marston

"Breathing Room"

Friday, August 22, 2008

Breathing room

Look back on your life up to this point and you'll quickly see that many of your worries and concerns were completely unfounded. So why do you still insist on cranking out those worries at every turn of events?

How many times have you looked back on an occasion with the regret that you didn't simply enjoy yourself? There's nothing you can do about those past regrets, but there's plenty you can do about right now.

It's ridiculously easy to enjoy life, no matter what the situation. It's just a matter of letting go.

Let go of the worry and anxiety, of the anger and envy, of the need to be right and the need to control everyone else. Let go of the need to have everything your way.

Underneath all those layers of need and worry and negativity, there is pure joy. When you simply accept what is, and choose to enjoy the goodness in it, life can be wonderfully rich and beautiful.

Stop worrying and fighting so much, and start enjoying a little more. Give joy some breathing room and it will flourish in your life.

-- Ralph Marston

Thursday, August 21, 2008

"Truly Care"

Thursday, August 21, 2008



Truly care

Sincerely care about what you do. Give your full attention and respect to the task at hand.

There are those who depend on the work you are doing. Put yourself in their shoes, and look at the world from their perspective.

You have within you the potential for excellence. That excellence will be realized in your work when you truly care about each thing you do.

Do not fall into the trap of thinking that some particular task is somehow beneath you. Instead, seek to raise up the significance of that task by giving your very best to it.

Each effort is an opportunity to express your highest, most treasured values. Each job is a chance to transform your vision of what life can be into something real and concrete.

The greatest, most valuable achievements are those built with genuine passion. Put passion and sincere care into the work you do, and the results can be astounding.

-- Ralph Marston

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Human Crisis

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"Destined to Achieve"

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Destined to achieve

You are a natural-born achiever. That's why focused effort feels so good and so right.

Trees grow toward the sky because that's what trees are meant to do. Storm clouds drop rain across the land because that's what clouds do.

You create new value and solve problems because that is what you are born to do. You make valuable use of opportunities to achieve because achievement is part of who you are.

Whatever else you may possess, you also have a diverse and powerful set of tools for achievement. You can observe, interpret, adjust, respond, prioritize, and imagine.

You can learn valuable lessons in one situation and put them to effective use in another, completely different arena. You can build and teach and cooperate and integrate the best of what has been into a vision of what can be.

In short, you are destined to achieve. Get your excuses, fears and doubts out of the way and allow that destiny to fully unfold.

-- Ralph Marston

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

"In Every Experience"

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

In Every Experience

Every choice is an opportunity to make the best choice. Every difficult decision serves as an occasion to firmly reinforce, with your actions, your most deeply held values.

From every mistake, there is much you can learn. In every setback, there are seeds of a more determined, purposeful and effective life.

Every disagreement is an opportunity to more fully understand. Every disappointment helps to shine a light on what you truly value most.

Whatever this day holds, somewhere in it there is positive value. Each moment is filled with possibilities for adding to the richness of life.

If you're determined to make negative judgments and criticisms, you'll find plenty of ways to do so. But what will that accomplish?

Instead, let your life and your awareness resonate with the magnificent abundance that is present in each moment. And you'll find real, useful, enriching value in every experience.

-- Ralph Marston

Monday, August 18, 2008

First Day Done - Fay to Go

We all survived the first day of 4th grade. Brandon and Daddy got off to a really bad start. Hubby was totally nervous and let it get the best of his nerves. He was very short tempered and stressing us all out. Geesh, you'd think he was the one going to school.

I got Munchie to the daycare as I wasn't about to brave the morning school traffic rush. The first few days of school are total mayhem with traffic and it's a complete mess. After it calms down I'll drive him to school. I'd cut off my left leg before I let him ride a school bus even if it is only 2 miles around the corner.

He looked so cute this morning all dressed like a handsome little man.

He said he had a great day, really likes Mr.Kooper and is quickly making friends. He already wrote in his daily journal today and it seems all the hard work with working on his paragraphs and grammar this summer is panning out. He wrote a great journal entry. I'm so proud of him. I believe it's going to most fortuitous having a male teacher this year. Most indubitably.

However with the whole state freaking out over this joke of a tropical storm, Fay, school is already closed tomorrow and possibly on Wednesday. The cashier at Target said it was total pandemonium yesterday and the news is hyping it as another Katrina. Please, it's not even a hurricane at this point and how close it's staying near land most likely will not make it to a Cat 1.

Better to be safe than sorry. I did reschedule my orthodontist appointment for tomorrow only because it's an hour away and at the tip of St.Pete. Sherry was most understanding and fit me in next Monday. I'm anxious to see what the Doc will say. My teeth are moving very quickly but the front teeth seemed to have stalled. I just passed my one year mark and am hopefully more than half way there.

So we're off to a good start with school but already stalled with Fay. We've been having incredible down pours every day for weeks but I think Fay will bring the much needed major rain and relief we've been needing. I personally love rain and thunderstorms. We just have to be watchful for tornadoes that are often spawned by hurricanes, and those are unpredictable.

Wish us luck! :)

Update you on Fay tomorrow.

"Pandoras" Box - Go Ahead...Open It!


Normally I'm the one that is getting my dad turned on to all the latest, greatest fun gadgets and technology. Sometimes it's a program on the computer, or a cable channel, a digital camera (he loved mine so much he bought the exact same one) or something as simple and wonderful as the incredibly clean water from a Pur Water pitcher.

This time it was his turn to show me something I'm now completely hooked on.

I went to his house this weekend, alone, for some much needed father/daughter time without the kiddo or the hubby to just talk about things and spend time together after Mom. It was wonderful time together and very healing for both of us.

I noticed this beautiful music coming from his computer and asked him about it. "Oh that's Pandora.com," he said.
"What the heck is Pandora.com?" I asked, "isn't that a box with very bad things in it?"
"Oh no come check it out."

So Pandora.com is an online radio station of sorts where you register for an account. There are no preset stations, you get a clean slate. You type in a song you like, an artist or album and it then goes out and fetches music that is similar to your choice in genre, beat, tone and tempo changes, music style etc...and plays these songs and artists
WITHOUT ADDS OR INTERRUPTIONS.
How excellent.

Well it gets better. For each song it plays you can give it a thumbs up to let it know you like that song in which it remembers your preference. If you don't like a song you give it a thumbs down and it again will learn and not play it anymore. Furthermore it learns as you provide your preference and over time it'll only play the songs, artists and music you like.
You can bookmark songs or entire artists in which it'll put these on your profile where you can play them anytime you like and even buy them directly from iTunes or Media Player.

I'm so hooked. Not only does it play songs from my favorite artists but is introducing me to artists I've never heard of but are just my style.

The best part of all

IT'S TOTALLY FREE!!!!!!

Oh and if you have a phone with internet access and are on the AT&T or Sprint network you can listen on your phone. The iPhone App is fantastic and I can sign right into my account and keep programming my preferences as I go.

So go check it out, open Pandora.com and have fun!

"Choose Discipline"

Monday, August 18, 2008

Choose Discipline

Discipline is a decision you make, over and over again. Discipline is choosing to do what you know must be done, as often and as long as necessary.

With discipline, you can make smart and advantageous use of the time and resources available to you. With discipline, you can create great value for yourself and your world.

The most powerful way to put discipline into your life is to understand and remind yourself of what it can do for you. Once you truly decide to live with it, the power of discipline is yours.

If you do not choose to discipline yourself, you will eventually be subject to the harsh, inescapable discipline imposed upon you by life's realities. It is far more desirable to choose your own discipline and to deal with those realities on your own terms.

Self discipline opens up a world of choices and opportunities which otherwise would not be available to you. Whatever goal you set your sights upon, discipline is the most reliable way to reach it.

Choose, early and often, to use the powerful tool of discipline. And always achieve maximum results from your time and your actions.

-- Ralph Marston

Friday, August 15, 2008

"Reasons to Succeed"

Friday, August 15, 2008

Reasons to succeed

Surround yourself with reminders of the reasons you have chosen to do the work you do. Keep the thoughts of those reasons foremost in your mind.

Achievement never happens for its own sake. Achievement is built when there are solid, meaningful reasons behind it.

The only enduring impediment to success is the lack of a reason for that success. Connect with a good reason, keep that connection strong, and you will find your way through whatever challenges you encounter.

When you have a reason, you have a stake in the outcome. When you have a reason, you're able to summon the discipline, commitment, persistence and creativity necessary to get the job done.

The best motivation is not to be found in some sophisticated secret technique or procedure. The best motivation is to constantly keep yourself in contact with your reasons.

Give yourself plenty of reasons to succeed. And you most assuredly will.

-- RM

"Just Because"


Thursday, August 14, 2008

Just Because

Be joyful, just because you can. Spread genuine joy to others, just because it feels so grand.

Generously give of yourself just because it's your own special way to make a difference. Smile, just because it is so easy and pleasant to do.

Follow your dreams just because they call so vividly and persistently to you. Live your deepest purpose just because it feels so very right.

Always speak the truth just because you understand its far-reaching power. Act with integrity just because it keeps you on the path to true fulfillment.

Offer a kind word just because it can have such a positive impact. Lift up those around you just because you feel connected to all that is.

Life can be quite complex, but it doesn't have to be complicated. Live each moment richly and fully, just because you are.

-- RM

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

4th Grade Fears Get Temporary Reprieve

At least for now.

Today was the day. Orientation for the new school year was today at the elementary school.

It's days like these I truly believe there is a God. Only 4 days left before the Summer is officially over.

The days of my sanity returning are numbered and I feel for the teachers.




We got to the school early to avoid the chaos and mayhem. We were justly rewarded by finding out for the first time Munch has a male teacher.

Now before I get assailed by all the female teachers out there, hear me out.
Brandon isn't your average little, sweet natured, adorable, 4th grader. He's hyper, impulsive, incredibly good hearted and has a near genius IQ. Add all of these together and you have Dennis the Menace meets Calvin and Hobbes.

He has this innate nature for figuring his teachers out in about 21.6 seconds flat and he can spot a meek push over from a mile away. I honestly think he can smell them. Unfortunately with the strict rules on teachers these days he rarely takes them seriously. That is unless you mention "Dad" or "Mrs. Smith" the principal.

So this year he's hanging with Mr. Kooper.

The next thing we find out is he'll be in a modular classroom and not an open pod in the main buildings. Let me explain.
This school is 3 years old and was built to contain 900 children. The day it opened it was 200 students over capacity. Seems the county has tried to save a few dimes here and there and has just been reusing the same blue prints for years. So what had more than enough room to hold students 10 years ago, with room to spare, no longer cuts it. Oh and did I mention Pasco County is the 8th fastest growing county in the country.

Seems this whole "pod" classroom system they've spearheaded is catching on nationally. This is how it works. Instead of having one classroom or small set of classrooms where all children are in the same grade, Pasco's Pod classrooms consist of 4 open classrooms with a shared cross hall and bathrooms. These classrooms incorporate children from 3 different grades 1-3, 2-4,3-5 grades. In the beginning of the year children are assessed to determine their specific grade level for each subject. Then they will go to that particular class for that subject. So for example, last year Munchie was working at 4th grade math, 3rd grade Reading and 2nd grade writing. So although he was in 3rd grade he would walk across the pod to the 4th grade class for math and the 2nd grade class for writing. Once a student surpassed or decreased their current level of competency they could be changed grade level without having to truly change classes. All the kids in the pod knew each other and the teachers shared an office. The child would also usually stay in the same pod for the full three years that pod offers to help provide stability and prevent those "new year, new kid, new class" jitters.

Well with Munchie you might remember he's a bit of a challenge, to say the least and this whole open pod/4 classroom thing just didn't quite work out for him. So now he's still considered in a pod but is confined to a single closed classroom at any given time. Less distraction, less disruption, less noise... well you get it.
That's plus #2.

The third plus is this year instead of all the pods being named after bird species only (hawks, eagles, egrets etc) they have incorporated all wildlife species and he just happens to be in the Gator pod. This makes Daddy very happy being Florida Gators are his fav college team.

We took Munchie down to meet Mr. Kooper and he was a very nice guy. We gave him the lowdown on him, what to expect and he's ready. We both really liked him and he's very qualified to work with Munchie.

So far so good. We're off to a good start but school hasn't started yet and only time will tell. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. :)


This is why I work at home - go pee before you watch.

If you work in an office, I'm sure you can say "been there, wish I'd done that."Or maybe not but man wouldn't it feel good!?
Enjoy!




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Today's Motivation: 'Thoughts Lead The Way'

(you can find the latest daily motivation, the recent poll and a chat box to say "Hi" to me on my Welcome" page.)

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Thoughts lead the way

Your thoughts have great influence on your life. So get them working in your favor.

Those things you've convinced yourself you cannot do, you will not do. By the same token, whatever you're absolutely certain that you can accomplish, you will indeed accomplish.

Your thoughts directly and persistently control your actions. And through your actions, you create much of the reality of your life.

Every achievement begins with a thought. And every achievement is supported all along the way by a continuous flow of positive, empowering thoughts.

You won't make something happen just by thinking about it. Yet the things you do cause to happen are those things upon which your thoughts are steadily focused.

Fill your mind with thoughts of positive purpose, joy, and meaningful achievement. Let your thoughts lead the way to the life of your dreams.

-- RM

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Move Over Fountain of Youth, Scientists Stop Aging Process

Holy leaping livers Batman, can it be possible? Gimme some of that!!!!

Scientists have stopped the ageing process in an entire organ for the first time, a study released today says.

Published in today's online edition of Nature Medicine, researchers at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine at Yeshiva University in New York City also say the older organs function as well as they did when the host animal was younger.

The researchers, led by Associate Professor Ana Maria Cuervo, blocked the ageing process in mice livers by stopping the build-up of harmful proteins inside the organ's cells.

As people age their cells become less efficient at getting rid of damaged protein resulting in a build-up of toxic material that is especially pronounced in Alzheimer's, Parkinson's and other neurodegenerative disorders.

The researchers say the findings suggest that therapies for boosting protein clearance might help stave off some of the declines in function that accompanies old age.

In experiments, livers in genetically modified mice 22 to 26 months old, the equivalent of octogenarians in human years, cleaned blood as efficiently as those in animals a quarter their age.

By contrast, the livers of normal mice in a control group began to fail.

The benefits of restoring the cleaning mechanisms found inside all cells could extend far beyond a single organ, says Cuervo.

"Our findings are particularly relevant for neurodegenerative disorders such as Parkinson's and Alzheimer's," she says.

'Misbehaving proteins'

"Many of these diseases are due to 'misbehaving' or damaged proteins that accumulate in neurons. By preventing this decline in protein clearance, we may be able to keep these people free of symptoms for a longer time."

If the body's ability to dispose of cell debris within the cell were enhanced across a wider range of tissues, she says, it could extend life as well.

In healthy organisms, a surveillance system inside cells called chaperone-mediated autophagy (CMA) locates, digests and destroys damaged proteins.

Specialised molecules, the "chaperones", ferry the harmful material to membrane-bound sacs of enzymes within the cells known as lysosomes.

Once the cargo has been "docked", a receptor molecule transfers the protein into the sac, where it is rapidly digested.

With age, these receptors stop working as well, resulting in a dangerous build-up of faulty proteins that has been linked, in the liver, to insulin resistance as well as the inability to metabolise sugar, fats or alcohol.

The same breakdown of the cell's cleaning machinery can also impair the liver's ability to remove the toxic build-up of drugs at a stage in life when medication is often part of daily diet.

In genetically modified mice, Cuervo compensated for the loss of the receptors in the animals by adding extra copies.

"That was enough to maintain a clean liver and to prove that if you keep your cells clean they work better," she says.

Settles debate

The study goes a long way towards settling a sharp debate in the field of ageing research.

Leading Australian ageing researcher David le Couteur, Professor of Geriatric Medicine at the University of Sydney, says the paper is a major breakthrough.

"She has single-handedly shown that lysosome function is a crucial part of the ageing process," he says.

Cuervo has also shown, he says, the critical role the lysosomal receptor molecules play in keeping the liver clean of damaged proteins.

While her paper does not show increased survival rates among the mice, le Couteur, who has advised her recently on the research, says Cuervo does have data on improved survival rates which she intends to publish.

He also says she is now working with pharmaceutical companies to identify drugs that will turn the receptors on, or make them more active.

Cuervo believes maintaining efficient protein clearance may improve longevity and function in all the body's tissues.

It is also possible that the same kind of "cellular clearance" can be achieved through diet, she says.

Research over the past decade has shown that restricted calorie intake in animals, including mammals, significantly enhances longevity.

"My ideal intervention in the future would be a better diet rather than a pill," she says. Online: ABC.net


Today's Motivation: "The Road to Accomplishment"

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Tuesday, August 12, 2008



The Road To Accomplishment

When the challenges are great, so are the possibilities for making real progress. Accept that those challenges exist, and yet do not be resigned to them.

Be clear and honest about where you are. Then begin moving boldly toward where you wish to go.

Look realistically at the difficulties you face. In every single one of them, there is opportunity.

No one is better positioned than you to make the most of those unique and meaningful opportunities. For you know exactly where you are, where you intend to be, and what you have to work with.

The road to real accomplishment leads directly through the challenges. Right now, you have what it takes to begin moving forward on that road.

You know what must be done, and more importantly, you know why you must do it. Step confidently into the challenges, and keep going until you reach the success that is on the other side.

-- RM

Monday, August 11, 2008

Not Another Manic Monday

I did it.

I survived school shopping (with my wallet in tact) and I got through Monday.
(inhale........exhale)

Normally I have calls up the wazzu on Mondays' but with the manager in Mexico and the Little Cheese traveling I got off easy with only one call today.

I probably spent more time lurking around on the blogs today and catching up with everyone but I figured since the cat's away this little mouse will take it easy a bit. I've been gone from my blog world for really most of the year with only a post here and there.
It feels good to reconnect and my two favorite girls called me today. Deb and Eva both touched base. Love those two and was so good to talk to them.

I noticed (kinda surprised I didn't before) when you update your Welcome Message box there is no update that goes out to the community inbox. At least it explains why there's little activity on the poll. So I decided I'll post the Daily Motivation on both the Welcome page and in the daily blog since no one will know it's been added to the Welcome page.

I have a chat box in the Welcome page too I'll leave for all my wonderful friends who want to drop a chat line. Feel free to drop in anytime.

Hubby is happy for the time being now that football season has started. I wonder how long it'll hold his attention this year. He's as bad as Munchie, if not worse, with the need to be entertained constantly. Munchie can at least entertain himself, hubby...... not-so-much. I keep telling him he needs a hobby besides working out and lurking on the Disney boards but so far no luck with that.

It'd be nice to something together but everything I've suggested has fallen flat. We're totally Yin/Yang. Everything about us is completely opposite in every way. It's almost laughable.

Opposites do attract. But what they don't tell you is then you drive each other totally and completely nuts!

Well time to go drive my Yin crazy.

Tootles.


Today's Motivation: "Be Kind To Yourself"

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Monday, August 11, 2008

Be Kind To Yourself

Be kind to yourself.
The better you feel, the more value you can create for your world.

Learn from your mistakes, but don't hound yourself relentlessly with them. Build for the future, but don't withhold from yourself the joys that you can live right now.

Delight in life's pleasures without sinking into meaningless excess. Enjoy the beauty that surrounds you as it resonates with the beauty that is within you.

Find genuine satisfaction in productive, meaningful effort. Give the best that you have, and discover the real, lasting treasures you receive from doing so.

Provide yourself with the energy, commitment and determination to do much. And regularly give yourself some peaceful, relaxing time to do nothing.

Treat yourself with kindness, courtesy, respect and the highest of expectations. For life is as good as you choose to make it.

-- Ralph Marston

Today's Motivation: "Start Small"

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Todays' Motivation - Start Small

Saturday August, 9th 2008

Start small Even the smallest accomplishment has great value. Because it sets in motion a positive momentum.

Once you begin to create value, you easily and naturally move toward creating even more value. The best thing about success is that it provides greater opportunity for even more success.

Go ahead and start small, and if you're unable to start small, then start tiny. The point is, do whatever you can with whatever you have, and that will be plenty to get you moving in a positive, productive direction.

There is always something you can do. There is always some small step forward that you can make right now.

Your ability to accomplish does not get used up. In fact, the more you use it, the more powerful it grows.

Create a little bit of success, and experience how great it feels. From that positive, empowered place, there's no limit to where you can go.

-- Ralph Marston

Saturday, August 09, 2008

Moving Along

I think I went overboard with the blog today.

Dad came over a little later than planned. He didn't want to come over too early since he didn't know what time we got up. Since hubby has to leave for work by 7:30 on Saturday's we're always up by 5-6 (him 5, me 6).

Tiff's flight left at 7am so I expected him around 6:30ish. He decided to stop for coffee and a little breakfast at Panera Bread, so we didn't do breakfast.
We just talked for a few hours, cried and laugh a bit.

He's a lot stronger than I think I would be if I had just lost my mate after 30 years. But that's Dad. He's a pretty well-put-together guy. I still hate the idea of him being at home alone, but we talked about it and we all know it's something he has to do. He has to sort through it all and be there without Mom. But still a four bedroom house can suddenly seems monstrous when you're living in it alone.

Anyway he's doing well and I decided to just chill out all morning.
I've neglected my blog for months and decided to go searching for a new theme.

Next thing I know I found myself going page by page through hundreds of customized themes, copying tons of theme codes I liked to my Google Notebook. I finally quit when I got to page 278. I figured I had searched enough, had copied about 30 code sets and had enough to keep me busy for awhile.

I get bored with page themes pretty quickly and like to change things up.

Then it was a matter of going through the ones I copied, finding one I wanted to use ( I really like this one) and then I needed to customize my title and headings (of course).
Of but then I had to make sure all my headings linked to their appropriate blog page and not the glitter graphic site I got them from.

It was time consuming but good mind-numbing therapy.

All I need to do now is spend a little time adding much over due fluff and stuff to it. That in itself is a daunting task but I'll add a little at a time.

Hugs to you all!


Friday, August 08, 2008

Moving Along

Well so far we're all hanging in there.

Work kept me super busy this week.
Tiffany (my little sis) has been staying with Dad all week keeping him company. It was good to see both of my sisters together for a change. We haven't all been together for three years. It's kind of ironic actually.
The last time we were together was when our biological father turned 60 and now we're brought together again when our mother dies at 60.
Odd.
Tiff has to go home tomorrow morning back to Wisconsin. She leaves around 7am Est. Dad is going to come over after she leaves since. He has to drive all the way to Tampa to take her to the airport, he might as well stop over. He's been wanting to see hubby since he didn't get to see him much during all this. Hopefully he'll get here before Walt heads to work.
I figured I'll make him one of his favorite breakfasts of biscuits and gravy with eggs over easy. It'll be a nice morning.

I'm a bit worried about him once he goes home since it'll be the first time he's in the house alone. I know he's not going to be staying long as he's planning a road trip in a couple of weeks for awhile. He needs to drive up to Wisconsin to get Abby, his white lab. One of Mom's last written words was "Get Abby".
So that's what he's planning to do.
He'll stop and see his mom who is pushing 83 and still a spitfire on her own.
It'll all do him some good. But I'll miss him.

So we're all hanging in and moving along as we should. The Tao tells us wallowing in misery can cause the body to be sick and although that was written 4000 years ago, modern medicine is finally figuring out it's true.
So I sit here sipping down the last of my silver needle tea, writing to my online family and friends.

Thanks to all who have sent me comfort, support and love on my blogs or email or IM. I treasure all of you.
Hugs!

Tara



All American Rejects
"Move Along"

Tuesday, August 05, 2008

GoodBye Angel - In Loving Memory of My Mother


I've been away....again. Sadly this time it's not primarily due to my laziness or being overworked. This time it was beyond my control.
ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) took from me swiftly and brutally.
She was only 60 and still brilliant and beautiful and vibrant.

I've lost my Mother, my pillar, my angel, my friend, my inspiration and my greatest strength. In the end she wanted my father by her side and her three girls to be able to say goodbye.

Her wish was granted and we were and did, before she took her last breath. Dad stayed by her side until the end.
I was able to still see her before she slipped into an unconscious stupor and although she wasn't able to talk or write, she was able to give me her very last hug. I lay on her breast as I did when I was a baby. I cried and with what little strength she had, she gently stroked my hair as if to say "Don't cry baby, it'll all be alright".
She said she wasn't afraid and I knew she was tired of fighting, tired of being tired and tired of being trapped in her body.

Her favorite films were "The Lord of the Rings" and as she lay sleeping in bed, I sang to her the last song "Into the West". Slowly I watched her slip away.

I couldn't do anything but cry and put my feelings into words.

Was,

did,

had.

These are words I use every day in my daily speech and conversation and I have never given them a thought. But this week they have not only been foremost on my mind but I’ve had to contend with the fact they are now used to refer to my mother.

In talking about her it had always been in present tense.

She lost her battle with ALS this week but the ultimate reality she is never coming home has not completely registered with my subconscious. I do not even know where to begin to express my grief and sorrow at the emptiness she leaves in my heart. It is like a rose bush in which the rose has been prematurely plucked and the vine still reaches toward the sun. But all that remains are the thorns. In time the branch will heal and the thorns will lose their bite but today and for the near future the wounds bleed deeply.

Her memory is everywhere in the house she loved so dearly. Her smell lingers heavily on clothes still neatly hung in the closet and folded in her drawers. The last book she was reading still lies on a table. A half finished blanket rests in a basket of yarn patiently waiting to be finished. Notes in her hand are found scattered about. Her footprints can still be seen under the desk where she worked up until a few months ago. In the quiet of night her voice can be heard in gentle whir of a ceiling fan. She is everywhere.

In the first few days of her passing, Dad and us girls spent time together laughing, crying and learning how to move forward in lives that no longer include this woman whom we all cherished and loved beyond measure.

We’ve slowly started reading through the notebooks of her words as in the last few months she lost her ability to speak. It grieves me beyond words to see how she suffered and yet tried to keep strong and from falling into despair. Her daily struggles are documented along with her unfailing strength; her faith and her incredible will to persevered and maintain grace in the gradual loss of dignity and quality of life. Her written words not only offer insight into her physical fight but provide testimony to her unbelievable capacity to soldier on even in the face of death. She showed the world she was the captain of her destiny up until the end.

There were very few people who disliked or disapproved of my mother but even those few would find it difficult, if not impossible, to deny she commanded respect and admiration. Whether it was her genius IQ or her magisterial personality, it was easy at first glance to find yourself intimidated in her presence. But her deep level of humility, her grace and overwhelming beauty captivated nearly everyone she met.

She was simply magical.

I can’t believe how much I miss her already and it feels as if a light has gone out of this world. The sorrow comes at times in unbearable waves but she would not have wanted us to allow ourselves to be pulled down into the current and drown. So we stand strong against the torrent, using her memory as an anchor, and let it wash over us. I understand we are now forever mired in the sea of sorrow but in time it will lose its’ ferocity and will only lap at our feet like the evening tide. Until that time we will continue to laugh and cry but inevitably find peace knowing she has found eternal joy. She has finally shed the bonds of human mortality and like a bird freed from a cage she now flies free around the Universe that had always so fascinated her, coming home to rest at the feet of her Father. She was and now forever will be, our Angel.


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"Into the West"
In Honor Of Mom



Barbara Cassada
October 1947 - July 2008